4 Things

My friend Eric posted this on his blog and I stole it. I’m not going to try and make this sound original. I completely ripped it off – changing the answers to my own of course.

4 Things I need to spend more time on in my life:

  1. Helping others
  2. My relationship with my mother
  3. Exercise (never ending)
  4. Appreciating the little things

4 Things I need to spend less time on in my life:

  1. Regretting the unchangeable past
  2. Hating anyone or anything
  3. Staring at a computer screen
  4. Worrying and being fearful of things I have no control over

4 Things I wish I could spend more time on in my life:

  1. Inner peace/spirituality
  2. Making music
  3. Riding my motorcycle
  4. Doing anything creative

4 Things I love about myself:

  1. I’m left-handed
  2. I’m fairly easy on the eyes
  3. My stature
  4. My big huge…heart

4 Things I hate about myself:

  1. I’m too hard on myself
  2. I’m incredibly self centered
  3. When I get really angry, I cry (HATE that)
  4. My low threshold to pain

4 Things I love that I used to hate:

  1. Vegetables
  2. Exercise
  3. Pool volleyball
  4. Myself

4 Things I hate that I used to love:

  1. Disney movies
  2. The greater Los Angeles area
  3. Sugary soda pop
  4. Politics/politicians

4 Things I look forward to:

  1. Growing old with Ray
  2. Summer
  3. Evening and/or weekend cocktails with friends or with Ray
  4. Having my Alone Time

4 Things I dread:

  1. Performing (YES performing! Scares the crap out of me.)
  2. Winter
  3. Conflict of any kind
  4. Aging, wrinkles, getting gray

4 Things I once believed in but no longer do:

  1. Our political system
  2. Organized religion
  3. American cinema
  4. Consumerism

4 Things I believe in that I didn’t use to:

  1. My own inner strength (You can be your own best friend? Who knew?)
  2. The placebo effect
  3. Mind over matter
  4. Love

4 Things I love to do but I’m bad at:

  1. Golf
  2. Sing
  3. Act
  4. Write

4 Things I hate to do but I’m good at:

  1. Technical troubleshooting
  2. Photo retouching
  3. Changing a flat tire
  4. Running

4 Things I did that I am ashamed of:

  1. Make my mother cry (On several occasions)
  2. Stole lots of money from my family (Bad kid with a drug habit)
  3. Got permanently expelled from High School
  4. I spent way too many years hating myself for being homosexual

4 Things I did that I’m proud of:

  1. Completed a four-year college program in three at the age of thirty-three
  2. I was writer/director Frank Darabont’s assistant on his film The Shawshank Redemption
  3. Played a gig at the world famous Roxy on the Sunset Strip with my former band “November”
  4. Took care of my father when he was dying

4 Things I didn’t do that I regret:

  1. A very close friend of mine was suffering from HIV complications in 94. When he got really sick, I couldn’t look at him. I avoided him and then he died. I never got to say goodbye.
  2. Start exercising while my body was producing its maximum amount of testosterone (Much different trying to bulk up at 45)
  3. Become a professional performer – I never even tried
  4. Save money for retirement sooner

4 Things I want before I die:

  1. A better world
  2. About 50 more years of being ambulatory, great skin and lots of sex
  3. Ray with me for those 50 years
  4. I want the people in my life to also have a happy wonderful long-lived life experience


  1. Diana

    Very well said! I’m sure most of those are on a lot of other peoples list.

  2. Erik Rubright

    Golf? I’m waaaaaaayyyyy to tempted to target the people on the course, or worse, traffic on the nearby highways.

  3. schmetterling

    Courageous post.

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