My brother got married this past weekend. Ray and I flew out for the festivities.  This photo cracked me up.  It is so us.  Ray is calm and reserve while I’m spazzing out in the background. 

I loves my Ray.  Maybe someday we can get married. 

Since last October, I have attended three weddings.  All requiring airfare.  While, I’m thrilled my straight friends and family are experiencing the joys (and legal benefits) of marriage, I’m starting to get a little pissed off that I am denied that same joy.

My brother knew his wife for about seven months before they tied the knot.  A quick walk down the aisle and they instantly receive social and legal benefits.  Ray and I have lived together for almost fifteen years in the exact same manner as my brother and his wife (with the exception of our genitalia and what we do with it) and we get nothing.  We jointly pay property tax, get involved with community events and live on our combined incomes.  It’s our turn to get married.  We’re already married!

I’ve heard some people argue that gay people are asking for special rights.  Well that’s just wrong.  I don’t want special rights, I just want the same rights straight people have.  I’d venture to say the straight people have the special rights in this case.

And don’t even get me started on “protecting” marriage.  Almost half the married people out there get divorced.  Our friends got married in Chicago a few years ago.  They’ve since split up.  I want some protection over paying to fly out there.  I want protection over the nice serving platter we gave them.  We spent a lot of money on their wedding!  Where’s our reimbursement check?  What really frosts me is that if my newly divorced friends meet someone new, they can just run out and get married all over again!  I have two different friends who have been married three times.  That’s a lot of plane tickets and serving platters.  Why aren’t we protecting marriage from that? 

California is dealing with Prop 8 and here in Arizona, we have Prop 102.  Please vote against this supposed protection of marriage.  It’s a crock of shit.

7 Thoughts on “This Is So Us

  1. That is a fun photo. You and Ray are kinda like George and I. I think we have a lot in common. Like your take on the whole marriage situation in our so-called land of the “free.” We don’t want special rights. We just want equal rights. Nothing more, nothing less. Let’s all hope for the best on November 4th.

  2. Well, if you do get married, send me an invite, southerners bring good gifts 🙂

  3. Wicked Glinda on 29/10/2008 at 1:24 PM said:

    When you get married, what kind of serving platter do you want? And, will it be formal or casual? I always need an excuse to buy a new dress..

  4. I figured if we really did get married, it would be the most casual let’s-all-have-fun mixed up get together ever. You want to dress up? Right on! You want to wear jeans and a t-shirt? Go for it. We don’t really need anything so gifts are optional. Donate money to a charity!

    …and yes, there will be karaoke.

  5. Wicked Glinda on 29/10/2008 at 2:20 PM said:

    Karaoke?! OMG! We’ll be there for sure!!

  6. That’s a great picture of you and Ray. Your story of your brother’s wedding reminded me so much of my brother’s wedding. He had known his fiancee for about the same amount of time as your brother. L and I had been together about 15 years at the time- same as you and Ray. What angered me at the time is that L was not welcome at the wedding. This girl that my bro had known for less than a year was being welcomed into the family, and my partner of well over a decade was specifically excluded. Fortunately, we managed to get past our differences, and L is now welcome as a family member. But it took way too long.

  7. Alice on 30/10/2008 at 10:51 AM said:

    My offer to you and Ray is the design and letterpress printing of you wedding invitations. Would love to celebrate with you and Ray.

    Bob and I love to Karaoke!

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